Recently, my kids and I attended a playdate after school. The host mom had obviously put in a lot of effort in preparing for the kids time together.
There were Halloween crafts – complete with supplies and examples of what the finished craft should look like and lots of healthy snacks. She had essential oils defusing to fight off any germs which gave off a beautiful spa-like aroma. This mom created a really fun playdate for the kids and in turn made it nice for the moms as we were able to visit.
The scene we enjoyed made me realize: we all do things differently! Playdates have never looked like that at our house! I think the kids should be happy with a hammer, a few nuts and bolts and anything they can find in the yard! Couple fresh air with their imagination and that is a winning combo at our house. Let’s just say it would be a very different looking and smelling playdate than the one we attended this week!
As we prepared to leave the playdate my kids began to ask me about what we were going to do next. “Can we go to the park when we get home? Can we ride our bikes?” I simply said, “live in the moment, be grateful for the time here and the crafts you have in your hands and the hospitality of your friends.”
The ‘what’s next’ mentality is eating us up and we are raising our kids with it.
The heart of a playdate (whether it’s sponsored by Martha Stewart or Home Depot) is building community. Being together in fun times, sharing moments that become memories and knit together our friendships. Those moments are necessary, if we hope to have a true friend in tough times.
Lord, help me to enjoy “what’s now” instead of always turning my head to “what’s next”, help contentment settle into my soul.
“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what is to be in need and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. Philippians 4:11-12, NIV”